What I Think: Kissing

Image by Getty Images via DaylifeI've never considered kissing that big of a deal. Everyone tells me it is a big deal because kissing is a sign of affection, and I entirely agree when people say that kissing is a major form of foreplay, but I still think it's not as big as deal as people make it out to be. Take last month for example: At OCH (Oilcan Harry's) they had this really worthy event called Harry's County Fair. Basically different organizations around the city would set up some sort of booth in the nightclub and based on the number of tickets the booth got, the organization would make a certain amount of money.

The Q participated in this event and Lex asked me to find people willing to be part of the booth they had assigned to us, which turned out to be a kissing booth. The rules were very simple: Every time a person made an appropriate donation we would kiss them on the cheek – because even though I wasn't concerned – a lot of people were scared of the prospect of contracting herpes. I looked and found some great people to participate and one of the people I asked was Sony. Sony is 18 now and even though he isn't the regulation hottie that most gay men end up being attracted to, he's a total twink and every once in a while people feel like flipping through the pages of Freshman magazine rather then Men (though if you're like me you have a subscription to both and enjoy them each from cover to cover).

Sony agreed to be part of the booth but in the day of the event, at the last minute, he backed out because he had just gotten a new boyfriend. I couldn't force Sony to do it so I let him back out (which actually worked out for the best because I didn't know it then, but it was supposed to be an event for people 21 and up ONLY so Sony would have been kicked out anyway) but in my mind I couldn't stop thinking: "It's not that big of a deal, its just a kiss on the cheek. If your boyfriend can't handle you kissing people on the cheek for a worthy organization then he's a total snob like most of the men you fall for Sony." It might be wrong to think such a thing, but is a kiss on the cheek such a big thing?

I don't know about you but a kiss on the cheek is a very friendly gesture. I kiss my friends on the cheek all the time and I never think that is will result into my kissing partner and me taking a leisurely stroll down the "Friends with Benefits" road. When I go downtown I kiss quite a few people on the cheek several times because being the person who I am – lovey-dovey and touchy feely to the point of me being flirtatious 24/7 – it's just something that I enjoy to do and several other people just seem to enjoy receiving (though people could argue that the fact they start smiling is because they don't know how to react). And even then it usually doesn't go farther then that.

There have been some guys whose automatic response is, "I have a boyfriend" and my initial response to that is, "We're doing something completely innocent". If a person really does become uncomfortable by my level of flirtatiousness I stop, but more times than not people seem to agree and begin to return this harmless gesture of affection. However, it's hardly ever resulted into me and the other person romping under the sheets. Even the day before yesterday, when I was downtown, when the kissing went beyond the simple peek on the cheek and into a full blown make out session, I did not find myself exchanging numbers with the other guy at the end of the night.

Kissing is just not that big of a deal. A peek on the cheek or the lips won't result into you getting naked with the other person at the end of the night. Making out with someone doesn't mean that by the end of the night your future child will have that moment to thank for his or her conception (for everyone knows that alcohol is usually a very large factor in getting a woman impregnated). I don't care if the movies say it is because every person who's lost their virginity knows that it usually doesn't happen the way it does in the movies. The only time that happens is if you wait until marriage to have sex and that part of our cultural society is quite slim.

There are several reasons, personal and socially, that it shouldn't be a big deal and well, I'll offer one of each. Let's start with the social aspect of why kissing shouldn't be a big deal:

KISSING IS FUN. Everyone who has ever kissed someone else knows that kissing is very fun. It’s enjoyable, it turns you on, and more times than not, your kissing partner knows what they’re doing, and if they don’t you can always turn the tables by instead of kissing them on the month, you can always move down and kiss them on the neck and so forth.

Now for the personal aspect:

YOU CAN BECOME A KISSING EXPERT. I know that I don’t look like what most guys are looking for. I’m not the most attractive of men, I’m way too boy crazy, and everyone who’s ever met me agrees that I’m quite a character. However, if there’s one thing that every guy I’ve managed to ever kiss agrees on: I’m damn good at it. I’m describes to have peppermint lips and my kissing prowess has been good enough to turn on just about any guy. I’ve had people seek me out just to find out how good I am, and everyone who has, has been pleasantly surprised.

That’s what I think about kissing and for those who want tips – believe me, a lot of people have asked me before – here are 4 simple steps:

Before the big night, use a tongue scrapper. A lot of people don’t know why I suggest they use a tongue scrapped but I dated a dentist once and let me tell you, had the freshest kisses ever. I thought he just took really good care of his teeth because well, he was a dentist but one day he revealed his secret. Every time before our dates, he would scrap his tongue. This made his kisses as fresh as possible and ever since I’ve dated him, I’ve scrapped my tongue too. Doesn’t hurt, I promise.

At the restaurant, don’t eat anything smelly. This is a given to a lot of people, but if you’re going to kiss someone you want to avoid foods like garlic, onion, and cheese because they’ll stink up your breathe. The safest food to eat is salad, but even then it’s hard to avoid certain types of food. If you can’t avoid it because you’re going to go to an Italian restaurant for dinner (where garlic and cheese is served with everything) then ask the waiter if you can have some parsley or mint from the kitchen, which every restaurant has. Go into the bathroom, put it in your mouth, chew it up a bit and your breathe will be kissing ready. All you have to worry about is parsley or mint getting stuck in between your teeth, so take toothpicks too.

Start slowly, and then go in for the kill. I know it sounds kind of weird, but you don’t want to make out with your date right away. Sometimes, it good, for something like the first kiss but a perfect kiss takes some planning. Kissing is the ultimate form of foreplay and the perfect kiss has some of it’s own. If you’re unsure what I mean do what I like to do: Before making out I like to start with those little baby kisses… You know the pecks on the lips, cheeks, and other parts of the body.

Practice makes perfect. Obvious. The more you practice, the better you’ll get. Finding a kissing partner is easy. You just have to look in the right place.

And that's basically what I think about kissing. It's not that big of a deal but it should still be done with the best of someone's ability. Because even though it happens to everyone at least once and it does happen everyday, everyone still wants to be the best kisser they can be.

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What I Think: Motivation

Image via WikipediaMotivation has always been an important aspect in my life. Whenever I’m motivated enough to do something or get something that I want, more times than not I often succeed in getting it. Weather it be something stupid and meaningless such as achieving the next level for my character in a video game or something important such as a job, if I’m motivated enough, I’ll achieve it eventually. So now, with so many important things going on in my life (school, work, and planning a variety show), where do I turn when my motivation seems to be gone?

Getting motivation isn’t a complicated process. When you’re excited about a task you motivate yourself to do the best you can possibly do in said task. When you get offered something fabulous such as a trip to a foreign destination because you did well in a job, you motivate yourself to do your job well. There are many methods to getting the motivation you need to do well in something, but losing that motivation is unexplained, hard to detect, and often times, unpreventable because you don’t know when it’s going to hit you.

I’ve lost my motivation lately. I was in school but by the second or third week I stopped going to classes because I didn’t feel motivated enough to go. I have a job and even though I’m excited about it now I’m afraid that sooner or later my motivation will fade and I won’t be excited about work anymore and simply go because I depend of my new job for survival. Finally, The Q entitled me with planning a variety show for the month of November and even though I know I will have a great time planning it and throwing it I haven’t felt motivated enough to take the first step.

The worst part about losing your motivation is that often times you don’t know why you lost it. I mean school was going great. My classes were amazing, my teachers liked me, and my classmates were awesome, but I don’t know… Not going excited me more than going. Also, my new job as a Sales Associate for the company Charming Charlie looks like a great job, but I’m not sure how long I’ll like the job. There are many good things about the job: Good pay, great co-workers, flexible schedule, and it’s a store that sells woman’s clothes so I won’t blow all my paycheck on buying things from there, but how long will the pros outweigh the cons?

And finally, we get to the variety show. I don’t know why I haven’t taken the first step in planning it. Making the variety show a success is my first step to getting what I would consider a dream job: A community organizer for the Q. I love the Q with all my heart and I would love getting a job there. It’s about the only thing in my life that I’m motivated enough to go to often enough and never tire of it. I love the people there, I love the atmosphere, and I look forward to all the events we do every week and every month.

However, I am confident about one thing: My motivation will return. Even though someone's motivation is lost in time it always finds someway back into a person's heart. Maybe it will happen seconds after I post this blog or maybe it will take days, but sooner or later my motivation will return and a renewed sense of being will grow in my heart and everything I hope to accomplish will be accomplished. All I need to do is find a way to lure that ghost or muse that bring about motivation to come back to me, but I believe with all my heart that I will...

Personal Bubbles, Orlando, and Teddy Bears

Personal bubbles – the invisible force that covers everybody that when people penetrate make someone feel instantly uncomfortable. I’ve always wondered why I, DC McLean, was never born with one of these personal bubbles that everyone else seems to possess. I’ve never been one that has ever felt uncomfortable when anyone got to close to me. In fact, I’m more affectionate with people, even complete strangers, and often say my “hellos” and “goodbyes” with a hug though it does bother people sometimes.

Why wasn’t I born with a personal bubble? Was it because of my upbringing? For most of my childhood life I lived in Latin America and in Latin America personal bubbles don’t exist. In fact, it’s considered rude to step away if someone steps close to you, even if they do invade your personal space. Also, living with a mostly Latin American family as the baby of the family I was never ignored and was always given a lot of attention. I wasn’t aware of personal bubbles until I first moved in America and someone told me to not get too close to them when I did invade their space.

However, after years of hearing of personal bubbles I’ve come to one final conclusion: PERSONAL BUBBLES DO NOT EXIST! I don’t care what you say but the simple truth is that personal bubbles are devices we make up to tell people we’re just not into them that way.

Let’s use an example. Let’s say that you really like this person so you unintentionally invade their personal bubble because you just like them that much. This person tells you to not invade their personal space by playing the personal bubble card. You respect this person’s personal space and let him/her have it. Fast forward a few weeks - or even days - later and you see someone new being very affectionate with the same person who you’ve been giving space; the same kind of affection you showed to them "so long ago". However, said person shows no signs of protest. They do not tell this new guy/girl to respect their space, they do not tell them to step away, nor do they play the personal bubble card. Miraculously, this person who told you to respect their personal space no longer has a personal bubble.

Why? Simple: They weren’t into you, so they told you to respect their personal space, but they do like this new person, so they don’t mind if the person does touch them and become affectionate with them. You could say, “Well, they probably know this person in a way you don’t know them. They might be new, but they might be dating.” They could, but still, if you really liked this person and they knew it, they would know you would feel cheated, you would feel hurt, you would feel so uncomfortable that you would rather do something else so you could ignore them in any way possible. By now, you should know this is how I feel right now but really, the personal bubble theory has always been lingering in my mind.

So now I suggest something to anyone that happens to read this blog. If you ever encounter someone that invades your “personal space” do not play the personal bubble card. You know, that if you’re single or once were, and this was someone that you did like, you wouldn’t say anything to stop them from being affectionate from you. In fact, you would be just as affectionate back and not give a fuck who was around you. You know this is true, so don’t try to deny it.

Anyways, on other news, it turns out I will not be in Fort Lauderdale while in Florida. I’ll be there for my training (or at least a place close to it) but I will not be there for my entire stay there. I’ll be in Orlando which sounds just as fun, but unfortunately, not the “gay-mecha” like I was hoping. I will post pictures of men I’ve met there so stay tuned to this blog as I will try to post on it more often to document my trip.

As promised I’ve decided to write a bit about another member of The Q I’ve become friends with: a friend who shall affectionally be referred to as Teddy Bear. Teddy Bear is the personal web guru in The Q. He completely revamped our website, added a chat room, a membership feature, and spent many hours working on the website, making it the best website it could be. Teddy Bear comes to The Q a lot too, cheering people up with his jolly disposition and his sense of humor. He’s a very likable person and to me a valued friend.

Teddy Bear is also very generous and when I didn’t have Coco the Corolla for a few months he gave me a ride home whenever he could. Our rides home are always interesting because when I ride a car with someone I like to talk with them. I might be annoying sometimes but I don’t know, it feels awkward to me if you’re quiet while someone is taking you home, because you won’t talk to them in you’re parting ways when the car stops moving.

Anyway, when I talk to Teddy Bear I usually talk about something I witnessed or something I’m thinking and Teddy Bear always gives me his input. A lot of times it seems like we’re having a debate but I value his point of view and take what he says to me to heart as Teddy Bear is a wiser individual than I am. I know that we’ll be friends for a long time and I look forward to talking to him when I get to the Q.

Anyways, that;s all I have to say for now. I’ll blog again when I’m in Florida!

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British and Transvestite(!) Heat: Austin Drage

Austin Drage is a young, attractive man I found a few years ago while I was looking for a new guy to add to my hot guy archive. I found just a few pictures of him then and then I thought, “Oh, he’s cute” and I added him like most guys who I find incredibly hot. I never really thought to check what he did but since he had a guitar I assumed he was a musician of some sort. I didn’t look for his music then or look for his videos on YouTube. I just kept him as a guy I would stare at.

Well, for many years I’ve come back time and time again looking at Austin Drage who I learned was British. I used him as a character of mine and I kept on looking for him and found more pictures of whatever set he did but never found anymore pictures of him which I was curious about. Finally, a few days ago while looking at him and playing the character who has his him as his picture I finally took the time to find a video of him on YouTube. The videos I got were of him singing, a shirtless video of him (which I will post) and a video of the Honeytraps.

I wasn’t sure who the Honeytraps were but after seeing the shirtless video of Austin, I knew that he was part of some group so I assumed they were it. I looked at one of the videos and sure enough I thought I saw him and two other guys dressed like woman singing some song that sounded very familiar to me. Only later did I learn it was a tribute. I looked for more videos of The Honeytraps and found only one more where they sang the same song, but were still dressed like woman only a lot more convincingly.

I did even more investigating and finally found out what Austin Drage was a part of. In England (Maybe Denmark, I really don't give a shit) there was a show on C4 that was called Boys Will Be... Girls. The point of the show was to take a group of boys, make them appear like woman, have them show a video and try to convince the record industry that they were a new girl group when in fact these women were actually men.

The first video the Honeytraps made succeeded in this. If I hadn’t read the caption before and had seen this video for the first time I would be convinced that the video was that of women even though the singer of the band had a very husky sounding voice. The song was a cover of the song “Just Wishing/ If I Had A Photograph Of You” by Flock of Seagulls.

Is Austin Drage a transvestite? I don’t know. Is he hot even if he is a transvestite? FUCK YEAH! I love Austin Drage and I actually really like the song he did with his little band even though I can’t tell what woman he is. I think he’s the singer. Anyways, after the pictures I post of him there will be 4 videos. The videos are as follows:

1) A video of Austin Drage Shirtless.

2) A video from the show Boys Will Be… Girls which shows the boys looking at their video.

3) A full video of the finished product. I promise, you’ll be astounded.

4) The first video I saw and I though Austin Drage was one of them. It's a actually a tribute but worth a look even though they are not anywhere as good as the professionals. You can tell they are men in this one.

The videos are after the pictures but you should look at the pictures? Isn't he the cutest thing you've ever seen?















Anyways, here are the videos:

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So that concludes my post about Austin Drage! Hope you enjoy him as much as I do!

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Being Extraordinary and Florida

It’s 4 AM and after a night out at the clubs I really don’t understand why I decided to stay up to post a blog or two. The whole truth of the matter is that I don’t really post much on this blog as it evident to whoever has read this. It’s already June 9, 2008 and my last blog post was May 19, 2008. I probably won’t post again until I come back from Florida and even then I’ll probably be pulling shit out of thin air.

It’s not that I have a terribly unremarkable life; it’s just that it’s just not that remarkable. It’s not extraordinary in the least and an ordinary life will yield an ordinary individual and more than anything, I want to be extraordinary. I think that’s what most people want: They want to be extraordinary.

Think about it? Why are we so obsessed with the stars of today? We may say we hate them, but why do we hate them? Do we hate them because they’re stupid or do we hate them because we’re jealous of them that for some reason they get the attention we want? I mean, I say I don’t care what people say about me, but I actually do. I want people to like me, I want people to say: “Wow, DC is a great guy.” However, if I got the attention that someone like Paris Hilton got, I wouldn’t give a fuck what people thought about me.

We hate stars like Paris Hilton, Nicole Richie, and Lindsay Lohan because for someone reason they became extraordinary and we didn’t. We think: “We can do what they do everyday so why am I still ordinary? Why am I not extraordinary?” It’s a stupid thought really for I’ve learned from Davey Wavey’s blog Break the Illusion (Look for a link in the bottom of this post) that we shape our lives how we want them to be. If we say, “I am extraordinary” the universe will listen and we will become extraordinary no matter how ordinary we may seem. Our lives will resonate as being extraordinary as we are and we will yield its extraordinary benefits.

Now, as for some DC’s life news, a while ago I got accepted to a great opportunity. I got accepted to the Obama Organizing Fellows Program and I will be helping Barack Obama win the presidential election by spreading him message of change and volunteering for him at a state that at the moment seems to be Florida. I will, for sure, be doing my training at Fort Lauderdale and hopefully I’ll be staying there as well though I foolishly told them that I would relocate to another state if they needed me to.

I leave on Friday, June 13 and I will come back sometime in late July. I will be leaving in such an importune time. I leave the day before Pride Fest and my niece’s third birthday and I don’t even know when I’m actually supposed to be at the airport. I’ll be at Fort Lauderdale at June 13 at 1:15 PM but who will be there to wait for me? Will there be anybody there? When will the call me? Where is the county where I’m supposed to stay and do my training at? Will I get to stay in Fort Lauderdale? Millions of questions are resonating in my mind.

Well, I that WIT (What I’m Thinking) at 4 AM this day on June but I think I’ll be OK. I’ll post another blog right after this one! Have a good day everyone!

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Texan Heat - Caleb Lane

I've lived in Texas for a pretty long time and it's evident to me that Texas is a hot spot for talent scouts. When you think about it a lot of celebrities seem to have come from Texas and it always astounds me how many celebrities that I used to watch everyday were born and raised in the Lone Star State.

Aside from musicians, actors, and athletes Texas has also yields a lot of amazingly hot men and in my opinion, the model who probably has a better status then all the rest is Caleb Lane. I've loved Caleb Lane ever since I saw him. I've always liked blond-haired, blue-eyed guys and Caleb was one of the hottest I have ever seen.

Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of pictures of Caleb Lane (only 10) so I've included them all here. If anyone out there has anymore then the ones I've posted, please direct me to them. I will be eternally grateful and give you a shout out in my next post and if you have a blog, advertise it. But once again, without any further ado, I present to you, Texan Heat - Caleb Lane:





















To see a larger size of every picture just click on them. To learn more about Caleb go here.

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STDs and Lex Luthor

“FUCK!” These were the words that resounded in my mind after reading my results last Wednesday. My life had been going so well too. I got hired possibly for two jobs, I had my car back, I was going back to school (which was way overdue) and I had a large network of friends that I really cared for. Then, crap had to happen. Let me explain…

This all started Wednesday afternoon when Pisha and I decided to go to the Q because we were bored. ASA was there giving a specific kind of test and well, I wanted to get tested. We got the Q and Pisha went first. After she was done (BTW, she is fine)I went. The test: Rapid HIV Testing / My results: Positive. That’s right, I have HIV. I FUCKING HAVE HIV!

This is so not good. I’m only 22 years old, I have a hard time finding and keeping jobs, I haven’t graduated from school yet, I have a family that annoys me to no end, I’m gay and have no boyfriend, I have a hard time finding a boyfriend, and now I have a fucking life-threatening disease that makes everything else in my life seem so minimal yet increases all the other problems ten fold.

This is in no way a good thing, but hey there is still hope. Advances in medical history have allowed people with HIV live long and full lives so it doesn’t mean I have to die anytime soon. I have friends that support me wholeheartedly and I’m sure my family will and my test results were not 100%. You see, they said it was maybe a false positive so I should know by Wednesday, May 28th if I have HIV for sure. Still, it scares the fuck out of me.

On other news, my job search was long and hard but I finally landed a job at Baskin Robbins. Yeah, it’s not the most glamorous job in the world, but hey, it’s a job and I think I’ll be staying there as long as they have me, or until I can find a better job. I have a job at Mighty Fine that I might get and a job lined up at a place called La Morada as a waiter which if I get, will open the door to a lot of more jobs.

In school related news, I start school on May 27th and I signed up for two classes during the summer. If you know me, you know that I’m terrible in Math and for this reason I have to take a remedial math course before I take College Algebra. It’s not the best thing to have in my record, but I’m happy to say that after I take this math course I’ll be on my way of wiping College Algebra out of the way! The other class is English Comp I but I’m sure I’ll do fine in that class.

Let’s move onto friend news. So, I know I haven’t updated this blog since a few months ago, but for the past few months I’ve been visiting this place called The Q. The Q is a community center for gay males from the ages 18 – 29 and what we do is volunteer around Austin, focusing strongly on encouraging Safe Sex within the gay community. Other than that, it’s also an awesome networking tool as most of the people there are gay and closer to my age than other spots around Austin.

I started going on October, and let me tell you, I fell in love with The Q so fast and so hard it’s become a large part of my life. Some of the people on the Q can be quite shady, but I think I hold more friends there than people who are unsure about me or don’t like me very much so I enjoy going there.

There are several people there who I care very much about but for now, I will tell you about my favorite member. My favorite member is one of the leaders, which I will affectionately refer to as Lex as he looks like Michael Rosenbaum from Smallville. Lex is a person I think I’m falling for even though he doesn’t feel the same way about me.

It’s strange, but even though he doesn’t feel the same way I don’t see myself “getting over him” anytime soon like I have with other people. I love the way he looks, the way he acts, the way he speaks to me and I hope with all my heart it’s because he’s a friend to me and just not because he’s one of the leaders of The Q. After all, I value his friendship and I hope he values mine.

Lex will never read this blog, for I don’t think he keeps up with it since it is rarely ever posted in (and I’m sorry to those who do take even a time to even look at it but I’m far from being a blogger) but I’m fine with it. Even though I do realize I like him and I probably always will I’m not ready for him to know the extent of my feelings foe him. He will probably never know and even though that is sad, I’d rather have him as a friend always rather then the possibility of losing him because we dated and then had a messy break-up.

There are other members I will tell everyone about but I will tell you all about them later, possibly in a WIT (What I Think) blog for now it is time for me to go. I will post a blog of another hot guy later! Have a great day bloggers!

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