Personal bubbles – the invisible force that covers everybody that when people penetrate make someone feel instantly uncomfortable. I’ve always wondered why I, DC McLean, was never born with one of these personal bubbles that everyone else seems to possess. I’ve never been one that has ever felt uncomfortable when anyone got to close to me. In fact, I’m more affectionate with people, even complete strangers, and often say my “hellos” and “goodbyes” with a hug though it does bother people sometimes.
Why wasn’t I born with a personal bubble? Was it because of my upbringing? For most of my childhood life I lived in Latin America and in Latin America personal bubbles don’t exist. In fact, it’s considered rude to step away if someone steps close to you, even if they do invade your personal space. Also, living with a mostly Latin American family as the baby of the family I was never ignored and was always given a lot of attention. I wasn’t aware of personal bubbles until I first moved in America and someone told me to not get too close to them when I did invade their space.
However, after years of hearing of personal bubbles I’ve come to one final conclusion: PERSONAL BUBBLES DO NOT EXIST! I don’t care what you say but the simple truth is that personal bubbles are devices we make up to tell people we’re just not into them that way.
Let’s use an example. Let’s say that you really like this person so you unintentionally invade their personal bubble because you just like them that much. This person tells you to not invade their personal space by playing the personal bubble card. You respect this person’s personal space and let him/her have it. Fast forward a few weeks - or even days - later and you see someone new being very affectionate with the same person who you’ve been giving space; the same kind of affection you showed to them "so long ago". However, said person shows no signs of protest. They do not tell this new guy/girl to respect their space, they do not tell them to step away, nor do they play the personal bubble card. Miraculously, this person who told you to respect their personal space no longer has a personal bubble.
Why? Simple: They weren’t into you, so they told you to respect their personal space, but they do like this new person, so they don’t mind if the person does touch them and become affectionate with them. You could say, “Well, they probably know this person in a way you don’t know them. They might be new, but they might be dating.” They could, but still, if you really liked this person and they knew it, they would know you would feel cheated, you would feel hurt, you would feel so uncomfortable that you would rather do something else so you could ignore them in any way possible. By now, you should know this is how I feel right now but really, the personal bubble theory has always been lingering in my mind.
So now I suggest something to anyone that happens to read this blog. If you ever encounter someone that invades your “personal space” do not play the personal bubble card. You know, that if you’re single or once were, and this was someone that you did like, you wouldn’t say anything to stop them from being affectionate from you. In fact, you would be just as affectionate back and not give a fuck who was around you. You know this is true, so don’t try to deny it.
Anyways, on other news, it turns out I will not be in Fort Lauderdale while in Florida. I’ll be there for my training (or at least a place close to it) but I will not be there for my entire stay there. I’ll be in Orlando which sounds just as fun, but unfortunately, not the “gay-mecha” like I was hoping. I will post pictures of men I’ve met there so stay tuned to this blog as I will try to post on it more often to document my trip.
As promised I’ve decided to write a bit about another member of The Q I’ve become friends with: a friend who shall affectionally be referred to as Teddy Bear. Teddy Bear is the personal web guru in The Q. He completely revamped our website, added a chat room, a membership feature, and spent many hours working on the website, making it the best website it could be. Teddy Bear comes to The Q a lot too, cheering people up with his jolly disposition and his sense of humor. He’s a very likable person and to me a valued friend.
Teddy Bear is also very generous and when I didn’t have Coco the Corolla for a few months he gave me a ride home whenever he could. Our rides home are always interesting because when I ride a car with someone I like to talk with them. I might be annoying sometimes but I don’t know, it feels awkward to me if you’re quiet while someone is taking you home, because you won’t talk to them in you’re parting ways when the car stops moving.
Anyway, when I talk to Teddy Bear I usually talk about something I witnessed or something I’m thinking and Teddy Bear always gives me his input. A lot of times it seems like we’re having a debate but I value his point of view and take what he says to me to heart as Teddy Bear is a wiser individual than I am. I know that we’ll be friends for a long time and I look forward to talking to him when I get to the Q.
Anyways, that;s all I have to say for now. I’ll blog again when I’m in Florida!
SEXDUCTXY!
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Thursday, June 12, 2008
Sunday, May 18, 2008
STDs and Lex Luthor
“FUCK!” These were the words that resounded in my mind after reading my results last Wednesday. My life had been going so well too. I got hired possibly for two jobs, I had my car back, I was going back to school (which was way overdue) and I had a large network of friends that I really cared for. Then, crap had to happen. Let me explain…
This all started Wednesday afternoon when Pisha and I decided to go to the Q because we were bored. ASA was there giving a specific kind of test and well, I wanted to get tested. We got the Q and Pisha went first. After she was done (BTW, she is fine)I went. The test: Rapid HIV Testing / My results: Positive. That’s right, I have HIV. I FUCKING HAVE HIV!
This is so not good. I’m only 22 years old, I have a hard time finding and keeping jobs, I haven’t graduated from school yet, I have a family that annoys me to no end, I’m gay and have no boyfriend, I have a hard time finding a boyfriend, and now I have a fucking life-threatening disease that makes everything else in my life seem so minimal yet increases all the other problems ten fold.
This is in no way a good thing, but hey there is still hope. Advances in medical history have allowed people with HIV live long and full lives so it doesn’t mean I have to die anytime soon. I have friends that support me wholeheartedly and I’m sure my family will and my test results were not 100%. You see, they said it was maybe a false positive so I should know by Wednesday, May 28th if I have HIV for sure. Still, it scares the fuck out of me.
On other news, my job search was long and hard but I finally landed a job at Baskin Robbins. Yeah, it’s not the most glamorous job in the world, but hey, it’s a job and I think I’ll be staying there as long as they have me, or until I can find a better job. I have a job at Mighty Fine that I might get and a job lined up at a place called La Morada as a waiter which if I get, will open the door to a lot of more jobs.
In school related news, I start school on May 27th and I signed up for two classes during the summer. If you know me, you know that I’m terrible in Math and for this reason I have to take a remedial math course before I take College Algebra. It’s not the best thing to have in my record, but I’m happy to say that after I take this math course I’ll be on my way of wiping College Algebra out of the way! The other class is English Comp I but I’m sure I’ll do fine in that class.
Let’s move onto friend news. So, I know I haven’t updated this blog since a few months ago, but for the past few months I’ve been visiting this place called The Q. The Q is a community center for gay males from the ages 18 – 29 and what we do is volunteer around Austin, focusing strongly on encouraging Safe Sex within the gay community. Other than that, it’s also an awesome networking tool as most of the people there are gay and closer to my age than other spots around Austin.
I started going on October, and let me tell you, I fell in love with The Q so fast and so hard it’s become a large part of my life. Some of the people on the Q can be quite shady, but I think I hold more friends there than people who are unsure about me or don’t like me very much so I enjoy going there.
There are several people there who I care very much about but for now, I will tell you about my favorite member. My favorite member is one of the leaders, which I will affectionately refer to as Lex as he looks like Michael Rosenbaum from Smallville. Lex is a person I think I’m falling for even though he doesn’t feel the same way about me.
It’s strange, but even though he doesn’t feel the same way I don’t see myself “getting over him” anytime soon like I have with other people. I love the way he looks, the way he acts, the way he speaks to me and I hope with all my heart it’s because he’s a friend to me and just not because he’s one of the leaders of The Q. After all, I value his friendship and I hope he values mine.
Lex will never read this blog, for I don’t think he keeps up with it since it is rarely ever posted in (and I’m sorry to those who do take even a time to even look at it but I’m far from being a blogger) but I’m fine with it. Even though I do realize I like him and I probably always will I’m not ready for him to know the extent of my feelings foe him. He will probably never know and even though that is sad, I’d rather have him as a friend always rather then the possibility of losing him because we dated and then had a messy break-up.
There are other members I will tell everyone about but I will tell you all about them later, possibly in a WIT (What I Think) blog for now it is time for me to go. I will post a blog of another hot guy later! Have a great day bloggers!
SEXDUCTXY!
This all started Wednesday afternoon when Pisha and I decided to go to the Q because we were bored. ASA was there giving a specific kind of test and well, I wanted to get tested. We got the Q and Pisha went first. After she was done (BTW, she is fine)I went. The test: Rapid HIV Testing / My results: Positive. That’s right, I have HIV. I FUCKING HAVE HIV!
This is so not good. I’m only 22 years old, I have a hard time finding and keeping jobs, I haven’t graduated from school yet, I have a family that annoys me to no end, I’m gay and have no boyfriend, I have a hard time finding a boyfriend, and now I have a fucking life-threatening disease that makes everything else in my life seem so minimal yet increases all the other problems ten fold.
This is in no way a good thing, but hey there is still hope. Advances in medical history have allowed people with HIV live long and full lives so it doesn’t mean I have to die anytime soon. I have friends that support me wholeheartedly and I’m sure my family will and my test results were not 100%. You see, they said it was maybe a false positive so I should know by Wednesday, May 28th if I have HIV for sure. Still, it scares the fuck out of me.
On other news, my job search was long and hard but I finally landed a job at Baskin Robbins. Yeah, it’s not the most glamorous job in the world, but hey, it’s a job and I think I’ll be staying there as long as they have me, or until I can find a better job. I have a job at Mighty Fine that I might get and a job lined up at a place called La Morada as a waiter which if I get, will open the door to a lot of more jobs.
In school related news, I start school on May 27th and I signed up for two classes during the summer. If you know me, you know that I’m terrible in Math and for this reason I have to take a remedial math course before I take College Algebra. It’s not the best thing to have in my record, but I’m happy to say that after I take this math course I’ll be on my way of wiping College Algebra out of the way! The other class is English Comp I but I’m sure I’ll do fine in that class.
Let’s move onto friend news. So, I know I haven’t updated this blog since a few months ago, but for the past few months I’ve been visiting this place called The Q. The Q is a community center for gay males from the ages 18 – 29 and what we do is volunteer around Austin, focusing strongly on encouraging Safe Sex within the gay community. Other than that, it’s also an awesome networking tool as most of the people there are gay and closer to my age than other spots around Austin.
I started going on October, and let me tell you, I fell in love with The Q so fast and so hard it’s become a large part of my life. Some of the people on the Q can be quite shady, but I think I hold more friends there than people who are unsure about me or don’t like me very much so I enjoy going there.
There are several people there who I care very much about but for now, I will tell you about my favorite member. My favorite member is one of the leaders, which I will affectionately refer to as Lex as he looks like Michael Rosenbaum from Smallville. Lex is a person I think I’m falling for even though he doesn’t feel the same way about me.
It’s strange, but even though he doesn’t feel the same way I don’t see myself “getting over him” anytime soon like I have with other people. I love the way he looks, the way he acts, the way he speaks to me and I hope with all my heart it’s because he’s a friend to me and just not because he’s one of the leaders of The Q. After all, I value his friendship and I hope he values mine.
Lex will never read this blog, for I don’t think he keeps up with it since it is rarely ever posted in (and I’m sorry to those who do take even a time to even look at it but I’m far from being a blogger) but I’m fine with it. Even though I do realize I like him and I probably always will I’m not ready for him to know the extent of my feelings foe him. He will probably never know and even though that is sad, I’d rather have him as a friend always rather then the possibility of losing him because we dated and then had a messy break-up.
There are other members I will tell everyone about but I will tell you all about them later, possibly in a WIT (What I Think) blog for now it is time for me to go. I will post a blog of another hot guy later! Have a great day bloggers!
SEXDUCTXY!
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